How to be a Dance Mom (or Dad): The RIGHT Way!

It’s the constant struggle of parenthood. How can you be there for your kids and show them your support while also giving them room to grow and foster independence? It can be a very fine line between the two, especially when you’re just so excited about what your child is doing!

In the world of dance moms (and dads) we’ve seen our fair share of those who hover too much, push too hard, and force their children to do things they don’t want to do. In fact, somewhere along the way, being a “dance mom” has turned into something negative. We disagree! We love dance moms and think there’s a way to be one in a supportive and fantastic way.

1. Pay Attention – Is your child excited for dance class? Are they having fun? Pay close attention to their reaction when it’s time to go to class. A positive attitude is the most important sign of whether or not an activity is right for them. If you’re pushing week after week, no one is benefitting!
2. Miss A Few Classes – As soon as you feel your child is old enough, let them experience class without you once in a while. Often times, children feel as if they have to impress their parents and make them proud. Let them be free to dance like no one is watching and enjoy it solely for themselves. But still come occasionally to let them know how great they’re doing and that you are proud!
3. Support Others – Let your child know that as a dancer, they’re part of a team. Show support for other dancers by cheering them on, too. There will be plenty of time for your child to shine, but they also need to know how to work as part of a group. Show your child it’s not only about them.
4. Try Different Styles – Did you always dream of being a ballerina? While that’s a wonderful aspiration, it may not be the same as your child’s. There are so many different styles of dance, kids need to explore and feel free to move their bodies in all different ways. Maybe their passion will be hip-hop or tap. Let them try everything!

5. Sit in the Front Row – But there’s a way to do it! We’ve seen those moms in the front row mimicking every move and putting pressure on their child to smile. Sit back, relax, and just enjoy the performance. Let your child be the star. Tell them how much fun you had watching them have fun!

If you ever fear that you’re pushing too much, ask the teachers! Along with the studio director, dance teachers are the ones who are face to face with your child during each class and can truly tell whether a dancer is thriving. They strive to be a constant source of support and always have the best interests of the children in mind. Let teachers guide you through the process of being a great dance mom!